3 Relationship Thoughts Worth Reading (Not a Relationship Advice) 💕
Issue #103: Three Relationship Insights Worth Reflecting On. Relationship Advice from 500 Years. Keep Doing the Little Things.
💡 Here are 3-ideas to help you learn, grow, and be inspired this week!
🎓 Learn
Charlie Munger once said that to be happy and successful in life, you should avoid three major pitfalls:
Getting married to the wrong person.
Getting into the wrong business with the wrong people.
Staying around people who have the wrong habits.
If you steer clear of these three things, you'll be well ahead in life.
No technology, tool, or framework (that I know of) can guarantee finding the right life (or business) partner. However, while reading Charlie Munger’s Almanac and Robin Sharma’s ‘The Wealth Money Can’t Buy,’ I recently came across a few relationship thoughts that caught my attention.
I’m not suggesting that you take it as relationship advice, but rather, I encourage you to reflect (after reading) on how you feel about your current relationship.
Thought #1: Boundaries on Toxic Relationships
Relationships can be hard at times, but they are not meant to be hard all the time. If you’re in one of those bonds, you’re in a toxic relationship, and as your mentor from afar, I need to tell you that you should get out (today). I know you don’t think you can do better, or you’re praying that somehow they’ll change. But a red flag is a red flag, and you just might waste the greatest years of your life hoping it will turn green. Yes, you’ll have to grieve your “loss,” and things will be hard for a while. But the pain of heartbreak will be a whole lot easier than the tragedy of what’s coming if you stay. Set boundaries on toxic relationships. We tend to cling to relationships past their expiration date and it takes a bigger toll on our health than we recognize.
— Robin Sharma
Thought #2: Right Relationship Feels Like You’ve Hit the Jackpot
The people who are the happiest in their intimate relationships will tell you they “just got lucky” and that both of them feel like they’ve hit the jackpot (read that twice!). Superb relationships really are like lotteries: There’s a fair amount of luck involved to win and — for those who do — there’s a feeling that you’ve just won the big reward. That you’ve been blessed by the Gods of Fulfilling Relationships and kissed by the Angels of Happiness at Home. If you don’t feel like you are beyond lucky to have the partner that you have, maybe you don’t have the right partner.
— Robin Sharma
Thought #3: Partner Who Will Never Second-guess You
Look first for someone both smarter and wiser than you are. After locating him (or her), ask them not to flaunt their superiority so that you may enjoy acclaim for the many accomplishments that sprang from their thoughts and advice. Seek a partner who will never second-guess you nor sulk when you make expensive mistakes. Look also for a generous soul who will put up their own money and work for peanuts. Finally, join with someone who will constantly add to the fun as you travel a long road together.
— Warren Buffet
Key Takeaway:
I’ll wrap this point with James Clear’s (author of Atomic Habits) thoughts:
"A great relationship is not only about finding the person you have fun with but also about finding the person you want to be bored with. The beauty of long-term relationships is often hidden in boring, ordinary moments.”
🚀 Growth Tip
Sahil Bloom shared these 27 pieces of relationship advice which I think is worth reading too.
Here are my few favorites:
Time doesn't heal when it comes to relationships. Don't delay difficult conversations.
Never involve a non-professional 3rd party (parents, friends, siblings, coworkers) in disagreements. You'll forget about it, but they won't.
You cannot take care of your partner if you aren't taking care of yourself.
🤩 Inspiration
Remember when I mentioned my 100 issues milestone for Learn + Grow?
Well, that morning, I woke up to find this on the wall. The night before, my wife (also a reader of Learn + Grow) had put it up to celebrate the 100th issue! ❤️
That reminds me of the final piece of advice on relationships:
Keep doing the little things: A note under the pillow, a surprise bouquet, a peck on the cheek. Romance never goes out of style.
— Anil
May the Peaceful Growth be with you! 🪴
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Damn, man, you just pulled me out from years of grief. Getting into a serious relationship at a very young age with the wrong person destroyed my soul. It's been 12 years of cursing myself, but simple words from you and Robin gave me a new perspective. Well said, waiting won't turn red flags into green.